Family

It's obvious that the family has been taking hits since man was created. This page intends to help strengthen our country by helping to strengthen the family.

Establishing and Maintaining Family Values

The Power of Family and its Impact on Society:
The benefits of living in a healthy family are too numerous to mention. The family impact on society includes how people socialize, the beliefs people have, communication, lawfulness and economic activities.
Suggested Readings:
Impact of Family on society
What Is the Role of Family in Society?

Outsourcing Our Family Values:
Over the decades, there has been a steady decline of family values; going to church, patriotism and raising children. Former generations have become apathetic, giving up the responsibility to "educators", government, television and social media and "self" is the root cause of the younger generations. A decline in moral values leads to an increase in crime and devaluing human life (resulting in abortion and euthanasia) and an overall breakdown of family and country. The longer these trends continue, the harder it is to recover.

So, how can we reverse these trends? Like any bad habit, apathy and selfishness need to be admitted and then conscious efforts need to take place to reverse the tendencies. Like the smoker or alcoholic trying to quit, it's retraining the mind and automatic responses. We must, first, admit there is a problem and, second, determine we will change.
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Teaching Children How to be Kind to Others:
8-year-old Martin Richard lost his life in the Boston Marathon bombings in 2013. He believed in peace and kindness, values he proudly displayed on a poster he made at school. How do we honor Martin's wish for No More Hurting People? We start by teaching children to care about others every day throughout the year and setting the example by practicing it ourselves.
1. Understand the Importance of Kindness - Learn about the benefits of giving for children and adults.
2. Create Kindness Projects - Plan for children to do ONE act of kindness or ONE pleasant activity per day.
3. Take Time to Share - On a regular weekly basis, share your acts of kindness with the family or classroom.
4. Practice - Reinforcing the kindness habit comes with practice. Once children get into the habit, it's easy to share.

Respect for Others:
There is a steadily increasing climate of disrespect in the family and society. Lack of respect is a problem the majority of people don't seem to mind even though it poses a serious threat to our values and character. When we tolerate disrespectful behavior, it can lead to crime and violence. Clearly, our present society lacks the perception about respect.

We all need to learn and understand what respect is and it should all start from home. Education starts inside the home. If you are a parent, you need to know that you are your child's first teacher. It is from the home where a child learns all about love, care, obedience, respect and other important values. Teaching a child about respect should be done through action. Allow your child to experience respect and he will start to understand what it really is and how important it is. Read more here.

Having Fun as a Family (Family Game Night):
It seems that when life gets busy, the real important things (like family activities) fall by the wayside. Be it a scheduled day or time or just on a whim, making time for fun with the family brings us closer together and the world a little nicer. Having fun activities, to lighten the mood, can be especially useful during a natural disaster or other type of emergency. Undergoing too much stress has been shown to be detrimental to physical, mental, and emotional health; something you would certainly wish to avoid during a crisis.
Resources:
What happened to Family Game Night?
Fun & Games When Things Get Tough

Forgiveness:
When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge — or embrace forgiveness and move forward. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for improved health and peace of mind. Forgiveness can lead to:
- Healthier relationships
- Improved mental health
- Less anxiety, stress and hostility
- Lower blood pressure
- Fewer symptoms of depression
- A stronger immune system
- Improved heart health
- Improved self-esteem
These things also apply to forgiving ourself for wrongs we have done which can lead to unending guilt.

Modesty: Is it a Lost Virtue?
Modesty is no respecter of gender and is exhibited by what is "in the mind" (heart) as well as what is worn (or not worn) on the body. It, generally, reflects one's true inner desires/intentions.
References:
Video
Modest or Immodest: A handy guide for telling the difference

Is it Love or Lust?
This topic may seem strange on a prepping web site or even on a page about helping others. Let me try to explain. If we, truly, have a love for others, our actions will have NO selfish motives; we will not expect to receive anything in return for what we do for others. On the other hand, lust has a motive; the expectation for a sexual relationship. So, why does it make any difference if the outcome of giving to, or helping others is the same? Well, it isn't the same; if we truly love, that love never goes away. On the other hand, if we lust, the kindness we previously exhibited can go away once we fulfill our lustful desires or if our desires are spurned by the one we lusted for; from that moment on, our intentions to be "helpful" can go away or flip to disgust or indifference. Additionally, and most important under "emergency" conditions where a clear and level mind is necessary for survival, intense sexual attraction (lust) is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people; bad decisions and serious mistakes are made that could be the difference between life and death, safety or danger.
Here are some distinctions to consider to help understand if a relationship is simply based on lust and not sustainable for a long-term relationship:
  • 1. Why are you interested in the relationship? Lust alone is interest only in the partner sexually. Love is interest in getting to know the person over time.
  • 2. Are you open to the hard work? Lust attempts to keep the relationship on an ideal level. Love expands to having difficult conversations and exploring painful emotions.
  • 3. How do you feel about the person's flaws? Lust loses interest when you discover a person's flaws. Love accepts a person's positive and negative qualities.
  • 4. Does the relationship get better over time? Lust is about immediate gratification. Love develops trust and commitment over a long period of time.
  • 5. Where is the thrill coming from? Lust enjoys the fantasy and excitement of the interaction. Love feels risky and vulnerable because it involves opening yourself up and letting yourself be known.
  • 6. How secure do you feel in the relationship? Lust can be impulsive, obsessional, and desperate. Love tends to be steady and secure.
  • 7. Do you feel "obsessed"? Lust is a high that can feel like an addiction and consume all your mental space. Love holds a more balanced perspective and allows for the ability to maintain a balanced life.
  • 8. Is there longevity? Lust dissipates over time. Love persists.
References:
Lust vs Love: Do You Know the Difference?
Ways To Tell The Difference Between Love & Lust

Educate Your Children at Home or Online:
When sending our children to public, government-controlled school is against our beliefs or not feasible, home or on-line schooling are alternatives to consider. You can do a much better job with selecting your child's curriculum and content than public school teachers, regardless of your level of education. As long as you can read, you can do homeschooling. Just do what teachers do – buy books that have a year's curriculum (program), and do what it says. On-line schooling can free-up parents for employment while the child is taught by educators the parents choose. Don't let our children's education be stunted and brain-washed with public school indoctrination agendas. When the opportunity arises, take advantage of homeschooling. There are lots of helpful resources and support groups:
55 Reasons to homeschool
How to Start Homeschooling Your Kids
Homeschooling vs. Online Education: Which is Better for You?

Resources:
Helping Others Helps Ourselves
How to Stand Up to Those Who Want to Destroy the Family
Survival Companionship