Helping Others:

I believe that most anyone can do anything if they want it and put their mind to it. They have it within themselves to make it happen. Sometimes they just need some encouragement and a 'push'. Helping Others, Helps Ourselves. More specifically, when we help others prepare for potential future events, they will become more self-sufficient and less dependent on others when those events take place (Example: Retirement Planning vs. Welfare). Remember the adage 'Give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day; teach a man to fish and he will eat for a lifetime'.

A person wrapped up in 'self' makes a very small package. Share yourself with others.

Kindness to the Kind and Unkind:
Kindness seems to be a lost attribute. It's easy to like, and be kind to, those who reciprocate. It is much more difficult to be kind to those we consider revolting. There may be some unkind expressions on this site but, as I re-read them, I make an effort to tone them down. Without belaboring the issue, I encourage overcoming our natural inclination to punch, or insult, those we can't stand but, instead, set an example of kindness even to those we strongly disagree with. I believe it will improve and calm our wellbeing and those around us. Perhaps, a focus on the opposing issues instead of the person will improve relationships. Proverbs 25, In the Bible, gives advice on how to live with, and treat, others. If your enemies are hungry, give them food to eat. If they are thirsty, give them water to drink. You will heap burning coals of shame on their heads, and the Lord will reward you. As surely as a north wind brings rain, so a gossiping tongue causes anger! (Proverbs 25:21-23)
50 Small Ways to Help Make the World a Better Place

Help Family and Friends with their Emergency Planning and Preps:
Help the Homeless and Less Fortunate:
Donate goods and money to local charities that help the homeless and less fortunate
Prepare, and keep in the car, a Homeless Care Pack including things like:
    Knit hat
    Gloves
    Tube socks
    Emergency blanket
    Pre-moistened hand wipes
    Tissues
    Travel-size toiletries
    Printed card with the name, address and telephone number of the local homeless shelter.
    Not recommended:
    • Consumables due to possible allergies or potential legal liability and Cash/money due to potential misuse

Give Hope When Things Seem Bleak:
In an emergency or survival situation, hope may be the only thing that will get us through. Hopelessness leads to powerlessness. And powerlessness (the inability to affect change in our lives) leaves us desperate and sad. When helping others become more hopeful when things look bleak, focus on helping them define realistic goals, offering support and being a hopeful person yourself.

Teaching Children How to be Kind to Others:
8-year-old Martin Richard lost his life in the Boston Marathon bombings in 2013. He believed in peace and kindness, values he proudly displayed on a poster he made at school. How do we honor Martin's wish for No More Hurting People? We start by teaching children to care about others every day throughout the year and setting the example by practicing it ourselves.
1. Understand the Importance of Kindness - Learn about the benefits of giving for children and adults.
2. Create Kindness Projects - Plan for children to do ONE act of kindness or ONE pleasant activity per day.
3. Take Time to Share - On a regular weekly basis, share your acts of kindness with the family or classroom.
4. Practice - Reinforcing the kindness habit comes with practice. Once children get into the habit, it's easy to share.

Can We Have a Mister Rogers' Neighborhood World?:
Upon its conclusion, Mister Rogers' Neighborhood was the longest-running series in PBS history (a record eclipsed by Sesame Street in 2003). Host Fred Rogers (known to millions as simply "Mister Rogers") used his gentle charm and mannerisms to communicate with his audience of children. Topics centered on nearly every inconceivable matter of concern to children, ranging from everyday fears related to going to sleep, getting immunizations and disappointment about not getting one's way to losing a loved one to death and physical handicaps. Can We Have a Mister Rogers' Neighborhood World? Here are 5 things 'Mister Rogers' can still teach us.
1. Slow down and be patient. "Mutually caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other's achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain."

2. Love people for who they are. "Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like 'struggle.' To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now."

3. Everyone is a neighbor. "Sometimes you're right where you need to be."

4. There is always a reason to help. "When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.'"

5. Treat others with kindness. "There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind."

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Giver or Taker:
"Work is about a search for daily meaning as well as daily bread…" — Studs Terkel.
You're at lunch with a friend who's looking for a new job. They tell you they’re interested in a company where your college friend works. You haven't spoken to your friend in a few years. What would you do?
1. Tell your friend you'll make the introduction
2. Tell your friend you'll make the introduction, and then ask them for help on your own issue
3. Tell your friend you don’t feel comfortable making the introduction since you're no longer in touch with your college friend
It turns out your answer to this question reflects your 'reciprocity style,' which is the way you approach interactions with others. According to Adam Grant, author of Give and Take, there are three different types of reciprocity types: givers, takers, and matchers. Givers seek out ways to be helpful and give to others. Matchers play "tit for tat" — they reciprocate and expect reciprocity. Takers focus on getting as much as possible from others. Which are you? These resources may shed light to identify your 'reciprocity style' and provide suggestions how to make a better world for you and others.
Resources:
Surprising Psychology of Givers, Takers, and Matchers
Signs of a Taker in a Relationship: Are You a Taker or a Giver?
Take the Giver/Taker Quiz

Modesty: Is it a Lost Virtue?
Modesty is no respecter of gender and is exhibited by what is "in the mind" (heart) as well as what is worn (or not worn) on the body. It, generally, reflects one's true inner desires/intentions.
References:
Video
Modest or Immodest: A handy guide for telling the difference

Is it Love or Lust:
This topic may seem strange on a prepping web site or even on a page about helping others. Let me try to explain. If we, truly, have a love for others, our actions will have NO selfish motives; we will not expect to receive anything in return for what we do for others. On the other hand, lust has a motive; the expectation for a sexual relationship. So, why does it make any difference if the outcome of giving to, or helping others is the same? Well, it isn't the same; if we truly love, that love never goes away. On the other hand, if we lust, the kindness we previously exhibited can go away once we fulfill our lustful desires or if our desires are spurned by the one we lusted for; from that moment on, our intentions to be "helpful" can go away or flip to disgust or indifference. Additionally, and most important under "emergency" conditions where a clear and level mind is necessary for survival, intense sexual attraction (lust) is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people; bad decisions and serious mistakes are made that could be the difference between life and death, safety or danger.
Here are some distinctions to consider to help understand if a relationship is simply based on lust and not sustainable for a long-term relationship:
  • 1. Why are you interested in the relationship? Lust alone is interest only in the partner sexually. Love is interest in getting to know the person over time.
  • 2. Are you open to the hard work? Lust attempts to keep the relationship on an ideal level. Love expands to having difficult conversations and exploring painful emotions.
  • 3. How do you feel about the person's flaws? Lust loses interest when you discover a person's flaws. Love accepts a person's positive and negative qualities.
  • 4. Does the relationship get better over time? Lust is about immediate gratification. Love develops trust and commitment over a long period of time.
  • 5. Where is the thrill coming from? Lust enjoys the fantasy and excitement of the interaction. Love feels risky and vulnerable because it involves opening yourself up and letting yourself be known.
  • 6. How secure do you feel in the relationship? Lust can be impulsive, obsessional, and desperate. Love tends to be steady and secure.
  • 7. Do you feel "obsessed"? Lust is a high that can feel like an addiction and consume all your mental space. Love holds a more balanced perspective and allows for the ability to maintain a balanced life.
  • 8. Is there longevity? Lust dissipates over time. Love persists.
References:
Lust vs Love: Do You Know the Difference?
Ways To Tell The Difference Between Love & Lust

Resources:
Survival Companionship