Choosing Survival Companions: The Company We Keep

Strength in Moral Character, not in Numbers, Skills or Stuff

Far into my teenage years, my parents always wanted to meet my friends to size them up and either encourage or dissuade my continuance of the relationship. The decision was mine but, ultimately, I would find that my parents were correct in their assessments. Over time, I developed that sense my parents had of knowing if a person was good or bad for me. Friendships will either inspire us to better our lives or bring us down or cause our personal growth and happiness to stagnate. How are your friendships affecting you? Will they be there during the lowest times in your life; when you have nothing to offer them except your friendship? Do you trust them to "have your back" when the rest of the world seems to be against you?

An Emergency Plan should include working with trusted members to prepare. For most, this will be a spouse, other family members or close friends. For others, reaching outside their circle of friends/family may be desired.


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You are already a member of a ‘Survival Group’. It’s called the ‘Human Race’. And it's been trying to survive continuously since the dawn of time. Self-preservation is an instinct of every mature creature. By trial and error instincts improve. And, by personal social integration with others, survival can improve and be more beneficial, in bad times, than going it alone. But having the right kind of companions is vitally important to supporting one another in the following ways:
1 - More people means more things can be done
2 - More rest for all by setting up shifts to do work and guard duties
3 - Reduces boredom, provides encouragement and other points of view
4 - Broadens the skills set with different backgrounds, knowledge, talents and strengths
5 - Fill the gaps of physical, medical and emotional limitations


If you don't already have a close-knit group of like-minded people, from whom to choose to be part of the survival team, how do you find these people? Ah, the old conundrum: how do you identify moral, trustworthy people, to whom you can identify yourself as a prepper without compromising your security in such a way as to render your preps irrelevant; connecting with someone, into whose hands you've placed your life, who will fumble the ball and sacrifice you, and other members of your team, for their own benefit? From research on this topic, the Common Interest Groups (CIGs) seem to work best; those that have built up over time, slowly, and composed of friends with whom people have had long-time relationships. So, the key is "don't be in a rush" to gather your team. Your life and safety will depend on it.
  • Volunteering broadens your horizons for finding like-minded individuals.
  • Join or form a local CIG organization and/or online Forum or Blog to find like-minded people, gather ideas and get advice.
  • Monitor the verbal and written "conversations" and dynamics (between members) within the CIGs. During these conversations, participant personalities, values and skills will emerge to help identify those who are compatible with you, your values and goals.
  • Knowing how to read a person or situation is hugely beneficial in day to day life and in survival situations, and body language is one of the best ways to do this. Learn how to read, and pay attention to Body Language. Non-verbal communication is as important as verbal and written conversations to building trust within the group. [Video]
    Also Read: Body Language in Bartering and Self-Defense.
  • At a high level, and without exposing personal information and plans, begin communicating directly with those who have piqued your interest as a potential team member.
  • At the appropriate times, slowly build your relationship with emails, phone calls and, eventually, a brief, face-to-face meeting at a public place for a quick drink or meal. Treat your first meeting as a blind date where you may find that you don't want to stay long with this person.


Do you feel like Noah (in the Bible) when trying to talk with others about prepping? For me, it's like having conversations about politics or religion; they're either on the same page with you or on another planet. For whatever reason, it seems to stike a chord at the very core of the soul. Maybe it's because many people don't want to think about bad things happening and if we don't think that way, it won't happen. I have, personally, experienced this; told not to talk to them about this anymore. So, though I still occasionally make the mistake of talking or sending out topic information, I just do my own private prepping. Unfortunately, I realize that those who do not prep could likely be my biggest problems when a "bad event" happens; so I have to prep for that as well.

I encourage those who believe in preparing to have those conversations with family and friends (without giving them a lot of details about your specific preps). But, if they aren't receptive, let it go quickly. If they ever do acquire the intelligence to understand why to prepare, they have a resource in you. Otherwise, put them on your list of those to watch out for; now they know where to come when (not if) the SHTF. Unfortunately, many people don't comprehend their need until they are faced with it, like a "no atheists in foxholes" moment; then it's usually too late.

Why Plan for an Emergency
How to Prep When Your Spouse is Against It
Prepping Your Significant Other For Prepping
Building a Preparedness Community
Are 'Preppers' Whack Jobs or is the World?

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RULE #1:

Be generous to help others understand the importance of preparing for an emergency and to point them to public resources so they can develop their own plan. BUT DO NOT divulge any of your own personal plans, strategies, supplies or resources to anyone other than highly-trusted family, friends or team members.


Too much emphasis is placed on talent when trying to explain how people achieve great things. Talent plays a much smaller role in the success someone has compared to their attitude. Friends can become enemies when faced with an environmental disaster or social unrest that increases stress and depletes resources. Build personal survival relationships based on moral and upright principals and character; not their skillset or what they have. People without morals and upright principals will abandon, or turn against, you.

As I was preparing this Posting in my mind, I thought about the old-testament biblical account of Gideon and the Midianites (Judges, Chapters 6-8). 300 Israelite soldiers (reduced in number, by God’s instruction, from 32,000) defeated the “Midianites, the Amalekites and all the other eastern peoples who had settled in the valley, thick as locusts. Their camels could no more be counted than the sand on the seashore.” When it was all said and done, those 300 defeated hundreds of thousands. But, of course, God’s intent was for the Israelites to depend on Him versus themselves (strength in numbers . . . NOT!). He did not need 32,000. He did not need 300. He just wanted the best and the best to be focused on the task as a unified team. It was not the quantity but the integrity.
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1 - Laziness (not staying busy on preparations, planning and security)
2 - Greed / Gluttony (obsession of wanting too much or unnessary stuff)
3 - Envy / Selfishness (every man for himself - wanting what others have, keeping what I have)
4 - Anger (losing control)
5 - Pride (thinking that I have all the answers)
6 - Immorality (lack of, or distorted, conscience [sense of right & wrong])
7 - Lacking a Sense of Community: Those who do not have a sense of "community" develop anxiety, depression and codependency issues. When people focus on the needs of others (community), they find purpose in their lives. They lose "self" to find "self". (Look up video/podcast: The Mike Slater Show, Is America Losing its Faith?). Careful consideration should be given, as a Team Candidate, to a Person without morals or a sense of "community". Know who your "real friends" are. In every group of relationships, there will be at least one Judas; morally weak, gossip, untrustworthy.
8 - Stupidity. Don't accompany stupid people to stupid places to do stupid things at stupid times.

American evangelist, Dwight L. Moody once said, "Character is what you are in the dark". And Bible verse 1 John 3:10 reads, "This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not God's child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister." Morals and trust are key attributes of your survival team members. Go slow, be thorough and don't compromise on your selection process. You need to find out what each member is like "in the dark".

Law of Attraction: . . . the theory that you attract the energy you exude. Your current thoughts are creating your future life. What you think about, or focus on, the most will be your life to come. An acquaintance of mine would frequently say "you're not what you think you are but what you THINK, you are".    [Video 1]    [Video 2]


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Committing to help one another, as a couple, family or team of like-minded individuals to stay safe, gather supplies, plan and prepare physically and emotionally is a vital skill to learn.

Neighborhood Watch is an organized effort by concerned residents to look out for each others safety, and to help law enforcement officers protect people and their homes against criminals. If your neighborhood has not yet become a crime statistic, consider crime preventive measures by starting a Neighborhood Watch Program. At the very least, call the police any time something looks suspicious or out of place. If your neighborhood has already become a crime statistic, a Neighborhood Watch Program can tackle this problem. Ignoring the problem will not fix it. In some cases and situations, it may be appropriate to form a local militia group.
Community and Neighborhood Prepping Tips
Things to Consider When Forming a Prepper Community
Community Response to an Emergency

Group Organization: When planning for a long-term emergency or a full-blown survival scenario, a well-organized survival group is necessary. The group must include trustworthy, moral people that possess diverse skills and a strong work ethic. Having a well-rounded collection of skills represented in the group will provide a better chance of surviving and make the whole ordeal much less difficult. With the exception of infancy or extreme incapacitation, ALL members of the group MUST actively participate in one or more group activities in the following areas; there is no room for charity, handouts, entitlements or laziness.
  • Scrounger - Scavenger - Acquisition - Negotiator - Bartering for, and acquiring, supplies
  • Quartermaster
  • Accountant/Finances
  • Doctor/Medic
  • Shelter/Facilities
  • Carpenter
  • Plumber/Water
  • Cook/Meals
  • Gardener
  • Livestockman
  • Hunter/Angler
  • Seamstress - Make and mend clothing
  • Security/Soldier
  • Mechanic - equipment/vehicle repair
  • Communications
  • Trainer/Teacher/Educator
  • Recruiter
  • Blacksmith
  • Electrician
  • Gunsmith
  • Bush Crafter
  • Preacher
  • Planner/Scheduler
  • Child/Elder care
  • Mediator/Counseling (usually handled by leadership)
  • Leadership (an odd number group, not an individual)
How to Organize A Survival Mutual Assistance Team
Building a Survival Group
Key Roles and Team Dynamics Within the Survival Group
The Community Survival Plan


Strengthening Family Values and The Power of Family and its Impact on Society


Not only is it's always more fun to go on outdoor adventures with a friend or family member, but it's also much safer. Heading out alone can be a great respite from the everyday cares of the world, but a solo emergency situation is not so nice. The buddy system is a common procedure in which two people, the "buddies," work together for mutual benefit and operate together as a two-person team. Here are some good reasons to never go it alone.
- Move more safely and get out trouble more easily.
- Boosting your buddy's morale, in a survival situation, will, generally, lift yours as well.
- In an injury situation, allows for one person to seek rescue while the injured party tries to hang on.
- Provide medical care assistance.
- A sounding board for ideas and plans and a monitor to make sure both of you are doing alright.
- Better chance fighting or scaring off potential 2- or 4-legged predators/attackers.


For some, a pet may be the only Survival Companion they will want or will be included as a valued member of the team. A pet, specifically a dog, will not only be very loyal but may be trained to perform many tasks that may help in an emergency. They may alert to "visitors" and dogs with a "big dog bark" may deter a [human or other] predator. A dog that has been trained to attack is a formidable defense weapon. Unlike humans, pets are not likely to turn against you and are not lazy if treated well. Here are some other animals and things to consider:
Best Guardian Animals:    [Donkey]    [Dog, Donkey, Llama/Alpaca]    [Geese]    [Ostriche/Emu]    [Pigs]
What kind of dog breed should you get? Take this quiz to match you to your perfect pet.
Reasons to Own A Pit Bull
Service Animals for the Disabled
Including Pets in Emergency Planning
Quality Pet Foods


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Our right to "keep and bear arms" is supposed to be protected by the Second Amendment with the exercise of that right protected by the First Amendment (freedom of Religion, Speech, Press, Assembly, Petition)! The ultimate protection of our rights, however, come from you! The people of this nation armed, trained and prepared to fight any foreign or domestic enemy is our best weapon against tyranny and usurpation of our liberties.

The U.S. Constitution, Article I, Section 8, Clauses 15 and 16, provides for States to organize and train their Militias according to standards established by the U.S. Congress, and to appoint the officers, but it was not the intention of that clause to authorize states to forbid local organization and training of Militia units, but to require that they be organized and trained. Here are some Steps to take:
  • Establish an Identity
  • Identify the Goals and Intentions of the Group. Reinforce them often to group members.
  • Organize a Recruiting Strategy which could start with an existing Neighborhood Watch Program.
  • Train Members (The Art of Guerilla Warfare: General Principles)
  • Practice - Run Missions
  • Follow all jurisdiction laws, rules and regulations. Be aware that the group may be monitored by the government.
  • As numbers grow, create a large number of small, independent units with many leaders. Never a central leadership.
  • Central Headquarters should only be responsible to facilitate communications, not command.

Militia Organizations & Resources:
American Militia Association
WHYU FM - 102.3 MHz [or listen online] in Meyersdale, PA (American Militia Association - Radio Station)
Militia News
My Militia News
Should I Join a Militia?
Patriot or Traitor


Though I have gathered my trusted group, there may not be a viable "government" to organize the masses after a SHTF event. Should I think beyond what "I" will do or start thinking about what WE will do to establish some semblance of order? Should we just go on our merry way alone or should we unite to better organize the chaos? If we unite, who will do this and how will it be structured? Consider these links for further contemplation on this topic:
Justice in a WROL (Without Rule of Law) world?
Sweden's Mobilization: Lessons for Preppers!

How to organize, train and fund a community preparedness and self-reliance group
The Best People To Be Friends With Before SHTF
Shelters - Survival Communities
How to Find Survivalist Friends
How your friends can influence your mood and behaviour
The Company We Keep: In Search of Biblical Friendship [Jonathan Holmes, Ed Welch]
7 Deadly Sins Of Survival To Avoid At All Costs
Top Prepper Websites
Google Search to find like-minded companions
Prepper Dating